Appointment. Confused.

Trent, People who say you "slip through a door" when they don't mean to hold it open after you've thanked them don't have very good manners.  Perhaps you should try taking the door from them and letting them finish walking through.  If they really mean to hold the door, they'll let you know.  That way you can avoid the problem. You're at a tough age when you tend to feel self-conscious and you have a neurological condition that can make it more difficult for you to understand non-verbal "cues."  You're a smart kid, though.  I think you'll figure a lot of this out. Just because you feel bad doesn't mean you have to apologise.  You apologise if you know you've done something that wasn't right or if someone says you hurt them or upset them. If I know I did something wrong, I will say so and offer an explanation.  Not an excuse.  I will apologise for any unhappy consequences.  If possible, I will try to rectify the situation, but sometimes the best thing to do is to walk away.  It depends. Now if someone says you hurt them or upset them, that doesn't mean you did anything wrong.  What I do in that case is tell the person that I'm sorry they feel hurt or upset.  I do not apologise for making them feel that way.  We cannot control what other people feel.  We can only control our own actions and our own feelings. A lot of otherwise very smart people don't understand this.  I used to apologise too much, too.  I got over it.  It's much better this way. Devorah Zealot Soodak http://psychout.typepad.com/ the zealot needs help!