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Sexual Side Effects

Wed, 03/29/2006 - 14:24
Why do you suppose that more neurologists and epileptoloists do not mention that a majority of anti-seizure pills do often make "normal" sexual performance for men difficult--if not sometimes impossible when it comes to erections? The first answer will pop up. And that is, even better-informed male patients will say "...to hell with my pills" and choose to live their sexual life "normally". Mind you, that last word I put in quotes, for who anyway should define "normal"? However, after having tried about as many anti-seizure drugs as the number of years I've had epilepsy (that's 35), I can speak as something of a lab rat. Many pills do affect a man's bedroom performance. And while this shouldn't become our reason for living, it is part of being a human, whether single, married or just evaluating our private parts. As society's attitude toward we handsome, educated humans with epilepsy matures, so does its understanding of "performance" when it comes to sex. Mind you, an honest woman will explain when love-making isn't just the thing for her; that does occur. My point is that this topic shouldn't remain in the proverbial "closet" any longer. Let's talk about it on this fine site, as well as face-to-face. Studies reveal how many men live virtually their entire lives feeling guilty for not performing sexually 24-hours a day, where in fact, there's most likely not one who ever has, other than in movies. And that includes this writer!

Comments

Re: Sexual Side Effects

Submitted by clarissoul on Tue, 2009-09-22 - 04:21
Don't go w/o your meds, even if you've been seizure free. The freedom is due, probably to taking your meds. As I am discovering how much the medication is affecting peoples' sex drives; power will be in numbers. Be honest and truthful with your provider, maybe we can all get a push for a drug that doesn't impede the drive so much. It is a hard subject for men to own up to, just try. You would not believe how many people you may help, including spouses/partners of people with the same issue. Good luck to you.

Same here

Submitted by Flowerkc29 on Mon, 2019-05-27 - 11:07
But the only thing is that I want to be a mom but its hardly impossible bc his lack of desire. At first I always thought it was me the problem bc as woman we tent to blame our self for thinking we aren't sexy anymore , weight, or any other. But now that I had so many comments I realize that indeed is the medicine im only 33 ge is 38 but its hard to live like this and like you said you cant live withoit him and I feel the same I love him to death and he does too but the lack of intimacy really hits us. I try not to think of sex but its hard im a human being i have needs, and somentimes I just try to sing a song call my sister my mom anyone so i cant stop feeling the urge but then i feel sad bc of this, I really miss him so much. I understand you and I hope tbat the love that you feel for your husband and same here never broke us apart. Take care.

Re: Sexual Side Effects

Submitted by jack boshoff on Sat, 2006-04-01 - 02:40
Im also surethe medication affects my own sexual performance which is very frustrating. I agree that people often brag about doing it 4 or 5 times in one night - never been able to do that, maybe as a teenager when mastrabating. I do get errections but struggle to keep it up thruogh intercourse - embarrising. This started after I changed medication and surely this is not mere coincidence. (Changed from Sabril to Epilum and lamictal and problems started) My wife is a brilliant beuatiful person that accomodate all of this and i try to keep her sexually satisfied/extatic through oral sex, she loves that!!!

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