New Here: First Seizure Questions: Adult onset?

Hi, I am writing because my husband had his first known seizure last October--back-to-back grand mal, lasting over 7 minutes.  Was disoriented, dizzy, imbalanced, and totally confused for several hours.  Then he had the second one, 5 minutes long, a couple of days ago, but came out of it better.  It was very horrible to witness, and I am really having trouble with the doctors in our town.  All they do is repeated CT scans, but on the AAN website I see that they recommended protocol for first time seizures is a EEG within the first 24 hours to pinpoint the part of the brain where they begin.  The doc here just wanted to write a prescription for dilantin and send us on our way.  I have researched all the drugs and my husband and I agree they are too seriously bad in their overall effects for him to take them unless there were absolutely NO other alternatives.  We have ad a heck of a time trying to find a good sleep specialist, a neurologist who is not a drug pusher, and someone who will take a look at my husband's total health situation.  Generally his is in good health, but he has an old back injury from getting hit by a car and it re-aggravates from time to time, including right before both of these seizures.  And although he has not been diagnosed with sleep apnea, he does snore, stop breathing, and breath in a really constricted way at night--enough so that I wake suddenly aware that he is not breathing and jostle him and he takes a big breath.  He also has recurring ear infections and is scheduled for a mastoidectomy next week, but the CT scan showed no spreading of the ear infection or erosion of the bones that would suggest any correlation to the seizures.  We have recently found that two of our close friends also had adult onset of grand mal seizures, and like my husband, only in their sleep.  One was diagnosed first with epilepsy, but then changed to sleep disorder.  I wonder if my husband has been having smaller seizures before this, in his sleep, but we do not know.   He used to be a regular pothead, and drank a lot, though he does not drink hardly at all for the last few years.  However, I have read that even one or two drinks can trigger a seizure in someone who has any history of heavy drinking, as the brain chemistry is all set on withdrawals, even if the person was not considered an alcoholic.  ANd as for pot--does anyone really know how it affects the neurotransmitters?  It seems that in a healthy person, long-term frequent use of pot makes them suspeptible to seizures and over time greatly increases the likelihood they will develop seizures as the neurological activity in the brain is altered and more unpredictable.  BUt in people who did not use it and who already started having seizures, it seems that medical marijuana might act as an anti-seizure med, perhaps in a homeopathic (like treats like) kind of way and by reducing stress.  Does anyone know more about this?  Our doctor won't even realy discuss it or do the research to give us any answers, but I feel strongly that it is important to know.  Oh, I forgot to mention, my husband's seizures started as partial complex seizures which then rapidly became secondary generalized tonic clonic (grand mal) seizures. It seems, too, that there IS some residual effects of the seizures, in spite of the fact that the doc said they would not last, and the CT and blood work being normal.  He is more forgetful, started dong this thing with his lips (kind of like the lip-smacking he did while going into and comiing out of the seizures) and seems more aggitated than he used to be.  Have any of you experienced it?  How are all of you doing now?  Please keep writing on this blog if you can, as it is so helpful and supportive of everyone!! Has anyone tried accupuncture for their seizures or had any luck with that or other therapies?  I would very much appreciate any feedback and discussion from the folks who read this blog.  Thank you all and I am gald this is a here for people to communicate about these matters.