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Child custody, divorce, and Epilepsy

Wed, 06/11/2008 - 16:20
My wife is divorcing me(partially due to my epilepsy) and seeking full custody of our child(ren) primarily due to my epilepsy.  The judge has granted me temporary 50% shared physical and joint legal custody while a court appointed custody investigator makes a recommendation.  I care about my daughter and she is the light of my life.  Losing custody of her would be devistating.  Any advice, help, or support would be greatly appreciated.

Comments

Re: Child custody, divorce, and Epilepsy

Submitted by mayceemae on Thu, 2009-09-03 - 23:02

I too have a daughter that I love soo much. And I have had my seizures for 30 years. She has seen my big seizures and she has seen my small daily seizures. That is a lot for a 7 yo to see and handle. And if my husband and I were to get a divorce and custody issues were at hand, I would have to admit to myself that she would be in better hands with my husband than myself. I cannot be selfish. I am sure that there would be partial or weekend visits. It really all depends on the situation of the person and the severity of the seizures that the person has. Mine are quite severe.

My daughter has already dealt with my seizures like a pro, she has matured greatly and I give her full Kudos for that!

I too have a daughter that I love soo much. And I have had my seizures for 30 years. She has seen my big seizures and she has seen my small daily seizures. That is a lot for a 7 yo to see and handle. And if my husband and I were to get a divorce and custody issues were at hand, I would have to admit to myself that she would be in better hands with my husband than myself. I cannot be selfish. I am sure that there would be partial or weekend visits. It really all depends on the situation of the person and the severity of the seizures that the person has. Mine are quite severe.

My daughter has already dealt with my seizures like a pro, she has matured greatly and I give her full Kudos for that!

Re: Child custody, divorce, and Epilepsy

Submitted by pinky12 on Thu, 2009-12-03 - 04:44

What was the reason for the child has to be taken into custody?What was the judgement given by the lawyer?

What was the reason for the child has to be taken into custody?What was the judgement given by the lawyer?

Re: Child custody, divorce, and Epilepsy

Submitted by knbreeden on Wed, 2008-06-11 - 20:24

WOW!! What an unfair cituation you are in and I wish you all the luck in the world. I don't think others look at us as "PEOPLE WITH EPILEPSY!" Having stated that - people is the fisrt part of that statement, not epileptics. I know we are misfortunate PEOPLE that have a disorder but, we all have feelings, wants and dreams.  What all of us people with epilepsy wouldn't do to be normal again. I was just diagnosed in 2007 and my husband has been a wonderful support for me and I can't imagine what you are feeling right now (abandoned, lost, and your whole world is upside down).

Is your child/children educated about your disorder? Do they know what to do if a seizure comes on? I have a 5 year old and we have educated her and practiced what to do if mom has a seizure if her and I are alone.  Luckily our Papa and Nana live 10 feet away and that helps.

What if you got a roommate for when your children/child are with you to make your wife at ease?

I wish you nothing but the best and I feel for you and you cituation. Good Luck!

Naomi

WOW!! What an unfair cituation you are in and I wish you all the luck in the world. I don't think others look at us as "PEOPLE WITH EPILEPSY!" Having stated that - people is the fisrt part of that statement, not epileptics. I know we are misfortunate PEOPLE that have a disorder but, we all have feelings, wants and dreams.  What all of us people with epilepsy wouldn't do to be normal again. I was just diagnosed in 2007 and my husband has been a wonderful support for me and I can't imagine what you are feeling right now (abandoned, lost, and your whole world is upside down).

Is your child/children educated about your disorder? Do they know what to do if a seizure comes on? I have a 5 year old and we have educated her and practiced what to do if mom has a seizure if her and I are alone.  Luckily our Papa and Nana live 10 feet away and that helps.

What if you got a roommate for when your children/child are with you to make your wife at ease?

I wish you nothing but the best and I feel for you and you cituation. Good Luck!

Naomi

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